The Litmus Test

“What’s your problem?” said my sister to my boyfriend when we arrived at my mother’s house for dinner on Saturday night.

While this stinging release of her inner monologue could have been (relatively) easily dismissed with a wink and half-cocked smile or an elbow to the ribs and a “just kiddin’,” my little sister had not an inkling of an intention to recant her questioning of my boyfriend’s dislike for dogs. In fact, those were her words of introduction upon meeting him for the first time. The idea that she might want to make a positive, welcoming impression on him had somehow escaped her, despite my better efforts to make her understand how much I was in love with him. I knew from that moment that the American Sisquisition had begun and would be conducted without mercy.

A good sport, he took such comments as, “You should just get over your fear of dogs because you’re weird,” “What do you mean you have never had Chinese food? You’re weird, and we’re going to have some delivered,” and “You’re making my brother weird[er than he already is],” in stride. I was continually trying to predict my sister’s next attempt at verbally accosting my boyfriend, hoping that he wasn’t wondering when my own impossible questions would begin. I made the appropriate defensive remarks, but not to the point of emasculating him; he had smartly realized that stoicism was the best response. And the floodgates opened – but quickly shut again when she realized her Sisquisition would only yield a very perturbed brother and unscathed brother’s boyfriend.

I believe he won her respect, but the challenge to her ego will be everlasting. I don’t know about you, but I always visit my relatives with the intention of breaking every other visitor who crosses the threshold. Like most brothers and sisters do when the fight becomes moot, we let what little conversation there was dissipate and resorted to throwing my mother’s armrest covers at each other’s heads.